May is a wrap! We donated a box full of hair and skin products to Cut It Forward this afternoon. Thank you to everyone who donated!!
Check out this great video where teens talk to experts at Cut It Forward!
Can’t believe the month is almost done! I will be picking up the donations on Friday, so swing by FCC in Edmond with skin or hair products before May 31!!
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May has been flying by but we’re still staying steady and celebrating #FosterCareAwarenessMonth! Join us for 3 more days by celebrating with Cut It Forward! Here are two ways you can join us online in celebrating:
💙 We've created a Facebook frame to raise awareness about foster care (swipe to see how it will look!). To add this frame to your Facebook profile picture just tap "edit" on your picture (if you’re doing this from your phone tap the little camera), tap "add frame", search “Cut it Forward” and then add the frame. Keep it up through remainder of the month to let all your friends know about your support for foster care awareness.
💙 Post a picture or video symbolizing your support for foster care and use hashtag #fosterforward. We will be reposting these posts on our social media and will have cool prizes to give away!
From my reading this morning. The works can be small things, but they need to be done, and on a regular basis. Join with me in taking care of the physical needs of children in foster care. Let’s have faith and deeds!
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21 hrs · Black hair tells a story. In African civilizations, hairstyles and hair accessories can indicate a person's family background, tribe, and social status. A specific style can also indicate the clan you belong to, your marital status or your age. Hairstyles were passed down through the matriarchs of each generation—from grandmother to mother to daughter! Black hair is so much deeper than just “hair” and we are excited to celebrate it with our families!
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May 20 at 4:18 PM · We love how Sesame Street is always working to be inclusionary of all children in their programming! We thank them for now including foster care youth who hardly see this type of positive representation in the media. Introducing Karli, a muppet in foster care! #FCM2019#fosterforward via ABC News
Want to bring a little sunshine to this rainy day?? ☀️
#CutitForward with us today to make a big impact in the lives of foster and adopted youth of color today. No contribution is too small and all donations are tax-deductible.
$10.00 - Provides supplies for Teen Service Board meetings and projects.
$25.00 - Provides critical, ethnic hair and skin care products for foster and adopted youth.
$50.00 - Goes towards training and educational materials and events for youth and families.
$100.00 - Strengthens our impact and reach across Oklahoma communities.
So click on the link and brighten a child's day! 😇🥰😎
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May 16 at 11:20 AM · Wash day! One of the most time consuming days for most naturlistas. Here are some tips to get through this process as smoothly as possible!
Be sure to check out the link below to find products we recommend for specific hair types!
Click here—-> https://www.cutitforward.org/shop-your-hair
What is your wash day routine? Comment below your favorite tips and tricks.
A lengthy read, but so well stated. Much love to everyone involved in the foster process.
Real Life Foster Mom
May 15 at 4:10 PM · Recently, I was asked by our foster daughter’s mom to become “Aunt Katy.”
There was a time in our journey when I would have been offended & felt challenged by that title. But now, by God’s grace, I see the privilege & honor she is giving me. She desires our relationship to continue long after this baby is back in her arms permanently, & it takes my breath away that we get to carry on a relationship with her—a relationship that has far greater impact on this sweet family’s life than fighting for adoption or the role of ‘mother’ in her child’s life could ever have done.
This is the reason why we will no longer be a foster-to-adopt home, in name or in function.
That little word “to” between foster & adopt implies that the end game in foster care is to adopt. Friends please hear me; while adoption can become a goal of foster care, it is not THE goal.
THE goal of foster care, at its simplest, is to provide a safe place for children when it is needed until reunification can occur or family is able to step in & provide that safety.
The goal of adoption is to welcome a child into the family forever only after all other biological family options have been evaluated & assessed.
Changing the way we talk about foster care & adoption may help us to become more aware that this is not about our will, but God’s will. & in foster care, the foster family becoming the forever family may not be in His will. “Foster TO adopt” often creates a battle between us & the biological families, which can easily become a battle between our will & God’s will.
What’s more, I would argue that “foster-to-adopt” as the only option is not the fullest & most accurate portrayal of the gospel. Consider what the gospel is at its core: God reconciling, restoring, & reuniting what was broken by the entrance of sin into our world by the redemptive work and power of Christ! The same beautiful goal for reconciliation should be mirrored in foster care. Of course, we know that reconciliation will not be achieved every time; so we weep & mourn that reality, just as Christ himself wept over the hardened hearts of Jerusalem.
It is a loss—a tragedy—when their families struggle to make wise choices, or their rights are set for termination. So, I have to wonder, sweet foster family friends, why are we cheering on their failures as moments of praise or relief? Why are we creating more barriers for them instead of journeying along side them in the hurt & struggles? Why aren’t we, even if from a distance, cheering them on as they work to reunify with their children? If God’s goal in the gospel is reconciliation & restoration of what was broken, our goal in caring for these precious children ought to be the same. Again, it may not always be an outcome that we are able to achieve, but we should long for it & strive towards it with all our hearts.
It’s not up to us whether they fulfill their case plans or court orders. But it IS on us to reflect the beauty of the gospel, showing the same love & grace that has been extended to us. “While we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” While these families (& even ourselves) are yet sinners, are we laying down our lives, our wills & “ways to grow our family.” We love them where they are at, as Christ loved & continues to love us.
I know each case is different, & I have cried with many foster parents who tried to have a relationship with birth families & have gotten burned. We’ve been there. So I don’t say all of this lightly. I simply mean that we can love WELL. Even if we never see the families face-to-face, we can still show love by how we talk about them, by how we treat them at court, or by how we check in with the case workers, eagerly desiring for any hope for reunification.
Start there, & see what beauty can come from the ashes.
When this child came into our home, we were advised by CPS & our agency not to make contact with the biological family for multiple reasons. I respected their advice, but by God’s providence, He allowed our paths to meet at a visitation drop off. The relationship that has followed floors me; & I’m saddened when I think about all that we may of missed out on had I let the battle of “us vs. them” begin. #FosterCare